In today’s hectic world, we rarely slow down to enjoy life’s simple pleasures. We rush from one task to the next, drinking our morning coffee and eating meals on the go, hardly pausing to notice what’s around us. Our lives are in overdrive, and the days of leisurely lunches and afternoon teas are behind us. Our social interactions have also evolved to match this fast pace, often taking place online through Facebook and Twitter.
I suggest taking a moment to look back to a simpler time for advice on enjoying life. Let’s stop and smell the roses by hosting an old-fashioned Victorian tea party. Take an afternoon to dress up, invite your friends, and enjoy each other’s company over a pot of tea. Here’s a guide to help you create an afternoon that’s both delightful and reminiscent of an era when people moved at a slower pace.
Invitations
In the Victorian era, invitations were handwritten on fancy paper. You can either buy blank invitations from a store or print simple paper ones with a floral or lace pattern. Handwritten invitations add a personal and decorative touch.
Dress Code
A Victorian tea party might seem formal by today’s standards, but it wasn’t overly so. A whimsical, Victorian-style dress is ideal. Consider pairing a long skirt with a long-sleeved top that buttons at the neck. Lace was popular then, so look for items that feature it. Crocheted garments and white gauzy materials also work well. Top off your look with a shawl, pearls, a brooch, or a cameo. Style your hair in a bun or an updo and complete the ensemble with an elegant wide-brimmed hat.
Decorations
For a Victorian tea party, flowers and lace are key decorations. Set your tables with a white lace-trimmed cloth or floral linen. Place fresh flowers around the room in decorative glass vases or lidless teapots. Candles can add a romantic touch. Music is essential, so choose your favorite classical tunes to play softly in the background.
Table Setting
Traditional Victorian tea parties have two table settings: one for the seating area and one for the serving table. At the seating area, which can be a dining table or a more informal living room setup with a coffee table, you’ll need silverware, tea cups and saucers, placemats, and napkins (preferably white linen). For the serving table, you’ll need a tea service (teapot, sugar bowl, cream jug, and waste bowl), a water pitcher, large serving platters for food, plates, and serving utensils.
Tea/Food
You can serve a variety of teas, such as Earl Grey, fruit-based teas, and green teas. Make plenty of tea and keep extra condiments on hand. Your menu can be simple or elaborate. Essential items include tea sandwiches—small, crustless sandwiches filled with cream cheese and vegetables like cucumber. You can also offer chicken, tuna salad, jelly, or other toppings. Other popular items are cookies, scones, cakes, and pastries. Ensure there’s enough food for everyone to sample everything without running out.
Optional Games
Adding games can enhance the fun. Popular Victorian games include blind man’s bluff, croquet, and charades. Choose games based on your guests’ preferences, formality of the event, and whether it’s indoors or outdoors.
Etiquette
Proper etiquette is crucial for a Victorian tea party. Be attentive to your guests and pour tea according to their preferences. For small gatherings, seat your guests; for larger parties, let them stand and mingle. Do not hold your tea cup with your pinky extended, add milk after pouring tea, and stir without clinking the spoon against the cup. Place the spoon on the saucer behind the cup when done. Don’t lift the saucer with the cup while drinking, and avoid looking at guests when sipping to prevent spills. Follow these guidelines to ensure a smooth and enjoyable experience for everyone.
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